Dr John Van Epp

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Take off your blinders!

It’s happened to everyone: You meet someone and fall madly in love, and all good judgment and perspective are thrown out the window—until slowly you realize this person isn’t who you thought he/she was. It’s true, love can be blind. But by following the successful and scientifically based program in How to Avoid Falling for a Jerk(ette), you can give love 20/20 vision and see your partner for who that person really is. Based on years of scientific study on marital and premarital happiness, How to Avoid Falling for a Jerk(ette) provides a roadmap to using your head and heart when choosing a life partner.

Therapist Dr John Van Epp has led relationship workshops all over the country, providing simple techniques to finding out who is marriage material—and who isn’t. Based on significant research and theory, Dr Van Epp’s proven methods in How to Avoid Falling for a Jerk(ette) maximize the potential of finding “the one” by giving you the tools to focus on the crucial characteristics of a loving, lasting  relationship.

Is this the one? There’s only one way to find out...

Whether you’re in a happy relationship or a rocky one—or you’re divorced and don’t want to make the same mistake twice—following the simple method in How to Avoid Falling for a Jerk(ette) absolutely guarantees you won’t marry the wrong person. This foolproof method will determine exactly what your partner will be like as a spouse, while also keeping you from getting blinded by love and providing the tools to build a strong, healthy marriage. These easy-to-use techniques will help you to:

  • Ask the right questions to inspire meaningful, revealing conversations with your partner

  • Pace the relationship to expose personality patterns, and to keep you from becoming too emotionally attached too soon

  • Analyze your partner’s level of conscientiousness—considered the window to the soul

  • Judge your partner’s character based on compatibility, relationships skills, friends, and patterns from family and previous relationships

  • Resolve your own emotional baggage so you’re ready for a healthy relationship

  • Open your eyes to problems in the relationship, and to stop giving a jerk too many chances

  • Identify—and break—destructive dating patterns that prevent you from finding a life partner

  • Limit your vulnerability by delaying sex until true love and commitment are secure

Years of clinical research along with observations from his own private practice has inspired Dr John Van Epp to develop universally applicable, proven strategies to navigate the complexities of love. By employing both your mind and your heart, you’ll be able to recognize the differences between the one and a jerk—and unlock the key to a blissful, loving marriage.



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